Support for Coming Out

Showing respect and love for someone as they come out is pivotal to communicating your support. Many LBGTQ+ individuals report positive coming out experiences. According to Pew Research, 39% of LGBTQ+ adults who have told their mother about their sexual orientation say that their relationships has grown stronger. While challenges may arise, many find that living authentically fosters deeper connections and personal growth.

Here are some ways you can offer meaningful encouragement to someone who comes out.

• Acknowledge Their Bravery: Coming out is a significant personal decision, one that often involves overcoming fear of rejection or misunderstanding. Recognize and honor the courage it takes for someone to be authentic about their identity.
• Listen without Judgment: When someone confides in you, provide a safe space for them to express their feelings. Listen attentively without interrupting or making assumptions. Your most helpful response is to make sure they know that they have your support. Avoid questioning or challenging their experience.
• Offer Affirmation: Simple affirmations such as “I appreciate you sharing this with me” or “I support you” can have a profound impact. Such statements convey acceptance and reinforce trust.
• Respect Their Privacy: Coming out is a personal journey. Allow them to disclose their identity to others at their own pace. Avoid sharing their news without explicit permission.
• Encourage Them to Build a Network of Supportive People: Help them connect with LGBTQ+ support groups or online communities where they can share.
• Educate Yourself: Take the opportunity to learn about LGBTQ+ identities and issues. This not only broadens your understanding, but also demonstrates your commitment to being a supportive ally.

Not everyone in the life of an LGBTQ+ individual may respond positively to their coming out. If you witness someone who reacts negatively, remain calm and patient and continue to provide advice and comfort for the person coming out. Over time, perspectives can change and your continued support can make a difference.